Connections, musing.

With the recent break up of the popular alternative band My Chemical Romance, I have noticed, truly noticed, the deep rooted attachment our generation has to the music that is supposed to define our culture, as bands before us have done for our parents and generations before.

Going on to Tumblr and just searching not the band’s name, but just one of the members, I was shown with no less than 14 posts that paid homage to “a band that changed my life, without them I wouldn’t be here” types of posts in 3 pages as well as concert memories and the reminiscing of first listens of songs, albums.

There were so many stories that talked of intimate, personal details of these teens and 20-somethings’ lives. Details that our generation seems to feel more comfortable pouring out onto the internet, to strangers, than to adults whom they are supposed to put their trust in and depend on.

Our parents became people who they thought were good; providing the best they could for their family, sacrificing family time and being available for their children for moments that they thought could be held off. But in a moment that started when their daughter was fourteen, suddenly its four years later and the parents are just now seeing the problem that has manifested into social awkwardness and penchants for dark clothes and heavily lidded, made up eyes that listen to just as heavy music with a “screw you” attitude served on the side.

We, the Millennial Generation, grew up with friends who lived thousands of miles away, connected by digital data and wires, shared loves of music and books and dramas. It was easy for us to relate to characters on the tv, despite the mystical aspects or the too perfect lives. Because so many of those traits and lives are desirable and for just a day, it seems like the perfect life.

And the lyrics that weave in our heads, those were so easy to connect to. Because essentially, it’s kids like us who are writing them. These heartbreaking, soothing, angry words are coming from people who feel like us. Who just want someone to listen and care.

Prime example is Gerard Way, formerly of My Chemical Romance. He suffered from depression that lead to alcoholism and prescription drug abuse. He also poured his emotions over the death of his grandmother into an entire album, The Black Parade.

The difference between songwriters and musicians and the rest of us is that they have people who will listen to them, who will both sympathize and empathize with the emotions they put into song. So many now mostly have to hope that they can find someone to give them a virtual hug and listen to them rant over Skype. These children and young adults only have each other. And only if there’s not the random troll who will send them into a downward spiral.

But have we become too attached to these musicians and characters of drama? The ways we have created to feel closer to them instead of the people who we need to interact with on a personal, physical level daily, far outweigh these actual live moments.

Fanfiction, youtube, dedicated blogs, fandoms, pages on Facebook and fansites across the web in dozens of languages. Even roleplay, inserting ourselves as important people in these beloved characters and professionals’ lives.

When are we supposed to draw the line and walk outside and away from the carefully crafted worlds we’ve created online with mostly those who accept us with the occasional asshole?

These worlds seem so much warmer and more inviting than the separation and cold reality of our houses with parents who seem in blissful ignorance until the media points something out. Then their righteous worry and indignation is fueled for a few weeks before turning their backs once more, obligatory parenting for the season done.

Its much easier for Millennials to let loose on their blog without interruption than it is to try and verbalize emotions when every other word from your mouth may mean suggestions of medications of therapy from your parentals.

Being in this band for the past 12 years has been a true blessing. We’ve gotten to go places we never knew we would. We’ve been able to see and experience things we never imagined possible. We’ve shared the stage with people we admire, people we look up to, and best of all, our friends. And now, like all great things, it has come time for it to end. Thanks for all of your support, and for being part of the adventure.
My Chemical Romance

Today’s featured item is the third of four hand panted portraits of Neon Trees! Tyler’s is featured today! Located in auction #2 with Branden’s, this portrait comes with many other awesome things that are up for bid December 5 thru December 15 to support To Write Love On Her Arms. Check out more info on TWLOHA at their site: http://twloha.com/ and definitely check out their merch athttp://twloha.zambooie.com/. For more info on both auctions, visit the Archive:http://tinyurl.com/NTFauction

Today’s featured item is the third of four hand panted portraits of Neon Trees! Tyler’s is featured today! Located in auction #2 with Branden’s, this portrait comes with many other awesome things that are up for bid December 5 thru December 15 to support To Write Love On Her Arms. Check out more info on TWLOHA at their site: http://twloha.com/ and definitely check out their merch athttp://twloha.zambooie.com/. For more info on both auctions, visit the Archive:http://tinyurl.com/NTFauction

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Today’s featured item is very cool! It’s a black and white portrait, hand painted by the very talented Jen. This one is of Elaine! It will be in Auction #1. Check it out, plus the others in the collection here: http://tinyurl.com/NTFauction. All proceeds from both auctions will go to To Write Love On Her Arms. Check out more on TWLOHA by visiting http://twloha.com/ and check out their merch athttp://twloha.zambooie.com/. Both auctions start December 5th, get ready!

ntftreehuggers:

Today’s featured item is very cool! It’s a black and white portrait, hand painted by the very talented Jen. This one is of Elaine! It will be in Auction #1. Check it out, plus the others in the collection here: http://tinyurl.com/NTFauction. All proceeds from both auctions will go to To Write Love On Her Arms. Check out more on TWLOHA by visiting http://twloha.com/ and check out their merch athttp://twloha.zambooie.com/. Both auctions start December 5th, get ready!

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when i was a young boy my father took me into the city to see a marching band

he said “son when you grow up, would you be the saviour of the broken, the beaten and the damned?…

will you defeat them, the demons and all the non-believers. the plans that they have made…

because one day i’ll leave you a phantom to lead you in the summer

to join the black parade

Bands I’ve seen (and the number of times):

  • 30 Seconds to Mars (28)
  • Neon Trees (24)
  • Mute Math (5)
  • Street Drum Corps (5)
  • Sick Puppies (1)
  • Breaking Benjamin (1)
  • After Midnight Project (1)
  • of Montreal (1)
  • Terrible Things (1)
  • Civil Twilight (1)
  • Paper Tongues (1)
  • 10 Years (1)
  • New Politics (3)
  • Young the Giant (2)
  • Enter Shikari (4)
  • Funeral Party (4)
  • The Hush Sound (1)
  • Debello (1)
  • The Orwells (1)
  • Middle Class Rut (4)
  • Assemble the Skyline (1)
  • My Chemical Romance (2)
  • The Architects (2)
  • Anberlin (5)
  • CB7 (6)
  • Eastern Conference Champions (3)
  • The Limousines (2)
  • Dot Dot Dot (1)
  • Greek Fire (1)
  • Sum 41 (1)
  • Ed Kowalczyk (1)
  • Red Jumpsuit Apparatus (1)
  • Papa Roach (1)
  • Seether (1)
  • AWOLNATION (1)
  • Thursday (1)
  • Taking Back Sunday (1)
  • Colour Revolt (1)
  • New Regime (1)
  • Bush (1)
  • Michael Frianti (1)
  • Big Talk (1)
  • Black Rebel Motorcycle Club (1)

And I’ve got Duran Duran (2) more Neon Trees (3, at least) and Madina Lake (1) coming up~~